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A bit difficult to answer, as it just needs to be at the "right" time.
I was married a bit over a year ago, and proposed in December of 2006.
Here's my two cents (for whatever that's worth), and what to expect.
We had been together since college, so 7 years and it was coming. I didn't want to do it for Christmas, and I was running out of "ideal" time, so I finally just went ahead with it. My wife mentioned how special putting up the Christmas tree was to her, so I had a whirlwind of a day when we finally went about with getting the tree up - we had had the tree for a week. Picked up the ring (had bought several weeks prior, but no sense having it lying around), drove to her parents there and back (1.5 hours each way) to officially ask her father in person, ordered food, and tried to find the right time. That right time was nearly midnight, as we were looking back admiring the decorating of our tree.
How does this relate, well, just make it special, and even if not, the situation will become special. I have heard better and "worse" stories than mine, but I don't think most of them matter as they are all unique. Your plan sounds like you have already captured the special, so it is more play it by ear and find the right time. Maybe it's before you get in the plane and say something about taking things to new heights and want to be a part of it. Perhaps it's on (not in, hate for her not to notice) the cheesecake dessert, although maybe it's a bit too "open" - are you, or she, or both more private individuals? Or maybe it is at the end of the tour. Is it you, or her that doesn't want the cheese?
I will tell you this, and especially if it is expected, but not known that it is coming... the next 18 months, or however long you take until the wedding, is one of the most hectic, yet enjoyable and memorable times the two of you will have together; everything just seems better. More importantly to your question, after the initial engagement, there will be a LOT of distractions, so hopefully, this knowledge will help you plan accordingly. Distractions will include her beaming smile and kisses about how excited she is. There will be phone calls to tell everyone. For us, it was midnight, and we were busy phoning parents, siblings, friends, and others close to us to relay the news. The engagement sort of takes over, and everything else sort of fades into the background.
At least, that was my experience, and from a few of others who would agree. Yours and her feelings may differ, but again, just my pennies.
Good luck, and best wishes on a happy life together!
Sean
, Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:05:36
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