Before we got married, my fiancee was advised to encourage my interest in toys. I think she took it to heart. I've aquired more fly rods than is reasonable, received a Billy Pate reel from her as a wedding present, bought a family sailboat, was encouraged to upgrade my '87 9K to a '95 when an excellent opportunity presented itself, and have been encouraged to pursue my interests. When the time came to replace her Mazda, she chose a '95Aero, and loves it!

Rather than being jealous of my attention to cars, fish, and sailing, my wife has encouraged those things that make me happy. It is who I am.

I don't shirk attention to her, though these things do take time from being together. I think we are both confident enough in ourselves and each other to enjoy our time together and apart. I think it is important to have independant interests and space. Kahlil Gibran, writing in "The Prophet", says that a man and wife grow healthy not as a vine intertwined, but as two trees. They grow near each other, but not so close as to block the sun from each other or take each other's nutrients. That way they both grow strong and healthy. I think there is some wisdom there.

Some of my fishing buddies have wives who are truly anxious, and sometimes angry when their husbands head off on a long weekend trip. Life has no guarantees, and it would seem beneficial to me for those wives to develop the strengths to manage on their own. Long weekends will go faster and be more fun, and should tragedy strike they'll be better prepared to handle life on their own.

Besides, you may find that you really LIKE dogs, or Saabs....

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• Boys and their Saabs, GoingCrazy, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:16:07
  • Some of the best advice our marriage got, EricG, Thu, 15 Apr 2004 05:50:12 <-- Viewing This Message
  • If it makes you feel better, Nathan Pflaum , Wed, 14 Apr 2004 15:23:02
    • Re: If it makes you feel better, jp, Fri, 16 Apr 2004 11:34:10
      • That's great! n/m, Nathan Pflaum , Fri, 16 Apr 2004 20:11:22
  • it depends on what is more interesting n/m, fishgirl, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 08:45:57
  • Re: Boys and their Saabs, Mattias.se, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 07:53:58
    • Tinkering...same here..., Noel, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 10:50:09
  • These are few of my favorite things... - may be OT, jimtimkim, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 04:58:54
  • Some people have to learn that lesson the hard way, Schu, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 03:51:57
  • Re: Boys and their Saabs, chrisx, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 00:02:46
  • But he's so cute...., KB900psi, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 16:03:58
    • Here you go, KB900PSI Protege, Thu, 15 Apr 2004 09:18:51
      • The picture has to be on a website, Dave Westlake, Thu, 15 Apr 2004 10:39:34
    • Re: But he's so cute...., KB900PSI Protege, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 16:36:21
    • Re: But he's so cute...., Saab Lover's Lover, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 16:24:54
      • Sorry.... but I didn't take the pic., KB900psi, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 12:57:55
        • More Pictures, KB900PSI Protege, Thu, 15 Apr 2004 09:21:20
          • I don't even know where the picture is. :-) n/m, Clay McNeely , Thu, 15 Apr 2004 09:50:23
    • Re: But he's so cute...., Saab Lover's Lover, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 16:24:04
  • The Woman or the Saab?, Saab Lover's Lover, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 15:45:38
  • The Woman or the Saab?, Saab Lover's Lover, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 15:45:14
  • Re: Boys and their Saabs, bRAD, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 15:23:29
    • bRAD!, saabgirlie , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 23:44:39
      • Re: bRAD!, bRAD, Wed, 14 Apr 2004 04:20:14
        • Re: bRAD!, saabgirlie , Wed, 14 Apr 2004 09:37:22
          • :(, bRAD, Thu, 15 Apr 2004 04:13:55
    • Right on. I wanna party with you man! n/m, BrianD, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 17:55:02
  • Has anyone noticed that "Bitter" and "GoingCrazy"..., Noel, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 14:47:59
    • Well-said. n/m, Clay McNeely , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 14:50:19
  • Why Don't You Test Drive It?, Seung Min Yu (Mel), Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:51:46
  • what's the difference between and man and a gov't bond?, compaqted, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:23:12
    • That's funny! But as a man, I must protest! n/m, Bob M, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 16:01:07
    • Ya got that right! n/m, Noel, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 14:37:30
  • The only difference between men and boys...., Noel, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:09:35
    • Taking Interest, Bitter, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:19:25
  • My wife understands why I kiss the dog first., Jimbo, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 12:39:23
  • Uh...maybe a car is a cat...., TKC, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 12:23:20
  • It's a trade-off...kind of..., Clay McNeely , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:37:00
    • Re: It's a trade-off...kind of..., Bitter, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:06:16
    • My wife is mystified, Brian in MA, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:00:57
  • my husband could say the same about me, saabgirlie , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:21:34
  • But that's only until bedtime..>, StanleyB, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:21:23
  • Right ...., RS , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:21:01
    • Heresy! All men like dogs! ;-) n/m, Bob M, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:55:53
      • But only till daybreak ... n/m, StanleyB, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:58:51
  • Honey, is that you??, AMG , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:18:26
    • I checked the IP, I am Safe!!! Yeah!!! nm, Chris., Tue, 13 Apr 2004 18:08:36
    • LOL, I had that same thought! (n/m), Jason 0W-40, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 14:07:38
    • Seriously though..., AMG , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 11:26:56
      • just you wait..., JimBlake , Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:43:04
      • Re: Seriously though..., GoingCrazy, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:08:24
        • The next one., Jimbo, Tue, 13 Apr 2004 13:26:36

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