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I've been through it twice (long) Posted by Caarma [Email]  (#592)  [Profile/Gallery]
(more from Caarma) on Sun, 10 Apr 2005 09:05:12
In Reply to: really OT: long distance relationships, TML   [Profile/Gallery]
, Sun, 10 Apr 2005 07:31:40
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... because the local girls here don't like me! No, but putting some of the kidding aside, my joke is that long distance relationships are the worst of both worlds, you're committed so you can't play the field, but you rarely get the fringe benefits of having a girlfriend.
OK, now to the serious side. The tough part is that it's all or nothing. You don't see her for possibly months (that's the nothing), and then you'll see her for 24 hours a day if she comes to visit for 3 days to a week or so, (that's the all part). That is tricky, because every visit becomes an event, so you're not living your normal life when she comes to see you. Your apartment is neater than usual. You're not in your normal routine. So, she won't get to know the real you for possibly years. Same things apply for you visiting her. The other thing is, every visit means a lot of investment of time and or money. If you have to break up, you go there to do it and then the rest of your time with her will be very awkward. If you wait until the end of the weekend, then she'll wonder why you didn't mention anything earlier. Breaking up is harder to do because it signifies perhaps never seeing the other person again. With local relationships, you can always meet up and talk or hang out with other friends. And then the last thing is, if neither of you are very talkative, you might run out of things to talk about while you're together because you've been through the seame things each day.
With all that being said, if you're right for each other, none of that will matter. It's just that it may take longer to figure that out. I've had two long distance relationships. One ended (my fault) with no impact from us being long distance.
Good luck, whatever you decide. Just make sure you each have time and money to visit each other if you decide to pursue it.
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