Heck, it's all symbolic -- it's just a piece of paper (or a rock). What will be important is how to deal with another person, your own fears, aspirations, dreams, and how to merge those together. Throw in time constraints, kids, mortgages, loss of family and jobs, and marriage is very hard. Symbols such as rings and large weddings aren't going to make your marriage any better, and anyone who thinks they do should go into pre-marriage counseling. Ask anyone who's had a divorce what a difference their engagement ring or wedding made to their marriage. In my discussions with divorced people, I've never had anyone who even mentioned engagement rings (other than I saw a story about a woman who convinced men to get engaged with her, then canceled the wedding and took the engagement ring) or weddings as being any type of factor in their marriage.

That doesn't mean that you (or anyone) shouldn't enjoy their engagement ring and/or wedding. It just means people should realize that these symbols don't mean anything for a good marriage.

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• Engagement Ring Advice, Some Guy, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 05:24:19
  • look first, jp, Wed, 2 Feb 2005 12:41:21
  • WHAT? Not sure if she checks this board........?, andy , Tue, 1 Feb 2005 18:16:57
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, CFishgo, Tue, 1 Feb 2005 09:31:33
  • First off - Congrats!!, saabgirlie , Mon, 31 Jan 2005 20:52:33
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, Steve in Chicago, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 16:45:24
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, Nathan Work, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 16:38:26
    • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, Some Guy, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 16:38:43
  • I figured...., cryptical, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 13:54:00
  • You guys all talk about spending too much $ on rings,, NickR, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:22:28
    • How many of us bought our Saabs new? or make payments?, PGAero , Mon, 31 Jan 2005 15:10:35
    • Re: You guys all talk about spending too much $ on rings,, Yak, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:29:02
      • I know - I had one :) n/m, NickR, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:33:21
  • Practical wife: prefer 401K plan than "rock.", Caukinh, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:20:24
  • Interesting responses, my guess is that those who are.., TKC, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:07:16
    • Re: Interesting responses, my guess is that those who a, Wendy, Sat, 12 Feb 2005 18:48:03
    • Re: Interesting responses, my guess is that those who a, W, Sat, 12 Feb 2005 18:44:06
    • Re: your guess isn't always true..., JimBlake , Tue, 1 Feb 2005 09:12:23
    • do you have the same thought about weddings?, Bob M, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:17:16
      • couldn't agree more..., cryptical, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 14:01:00
      • A ring is a symbol, no it isn't the same ....., TKC, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 13:02:42
        • A wedding isn't a symbol?, Bob M, Tue, 1 Feb 2005 11:46:40 <-- Viewing This Message
          • Why shower such bitterness and negativity ? n/m, TKC, Tue, 1 Feb 2005 12:14:11
  • Buy a motorcycle instead...., Yak, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 11:43:09
  • Some advice, tsw, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 10:20:05
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, Mattias.se, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 09:59:03
  • Link to a good on-line site for this, Dean, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 08:57:03
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, Allen K, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 08:41:06
  • How about an estate sale? Canadian diamonds?, Brian_in_MA, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 08:21:03
  • Just beware of really good fakes, yes, there are...., TKC, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:59:31
  • Don't go to "store", water dog, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:50:42
  • Do you know what sort of ring SHE wants?, Urby, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:32:45
  • OT, dip, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:31:00
  • Avoid the malls, SS, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:30:25
  • I did this recently, Josh88SiS, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:10:09
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, johnf, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 06:57:05
  • I am in a similar boat (don't tell her)..., elliott, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 06:27:37
  • Re: Engagement Ring Advice, MatthewB, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 06:19:13
  • where are you?? find someone you trust...., sonett43, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 06:11:49
  • Don't trade quality for size... women know these things, NateinAA, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 05:50:21
    • i was looking at blue nile, SomeGuy, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 06:37:36
      • do some browsing in person first, MJM , Mon, 31 Jan 2005 09:26:17
      • Sounds about right, NateinAA, Mon, 31 Jan 2005 07:54:15

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