Drew's post is pretty much right on. But I think you have to deal with this on a couple of levels.
First make sure you are documenting everything and keeping the record off site. For the time being, I would avoid escalating to HR or your boss's boss.

Second, since your manager doesn't want to deal with it (something you should also document) you have to deal with this person one on one. Be nice, smile, be friendly. Don't let her get to you. It is harder for someone, even a jerk like you seem to have there, to be mean to you if you're being nice to them. I know it's hard, but it's one technique that can work. Buy her lunch, and gently try to find out why she is being such a putz. People are weird, and there could be some imagined slight on her part that makes her have a grudge against you. Maybe she just has a lot of crap going on in her life.

I know you'll take the high road and not gossip about it at work. However, if there is someone else in the office you can totally trust, it wouldn't hurt to get their point of view. It also gives you something of an ally who may be able to vouch for you if necessary. Someone else may know more about her and another colleague may have input.

Without knowing either of you, it does sound like she is jealous of you--younger, married, nice cars, own a house, etc. This makes it a personal issue for her, as she may think she should have what you do. That's her problem, but she is making you deal with it. So you have to deal with her. Don't be confrontational, though, it will only make it worse, as she'll see it as an attack.

This will evolve. Please keep us all posted.
Sure reminds me of when I did the corporate thing. I've been there. Never fun.

Good luck and take it a day at a time.

Noel

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• difficult co-workers...advice?, RedAeroGirl, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 06:51:50
  • The follow up after talking with mgr., RedAeroGirl, Mon, 28 Mar 2005 13:20:41
  • Re: difficult co-workers...advice?, dboone, Mon, 28 Mar 2005 11:24:36
  • F*CK 'em. put up a website & invite me down for beers>, a prodigal son, Mon, 28 Mar 2005 06:32:57
    • I know I can count on you ps!, RedAeroGirl, Mon, 28 Mar 2005 13:06:41
  • Communicate effectively (+), PR, Sat, 26 Mar 2005 17:34:51
  • Good Book "Coping with Difficult People", EricG, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 21:35:06
  • Re: difficult co-workers..., PT, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 16:58:02
  • Cover your rear, but be proactive..., Noel, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 11:35:45 <-- Viewing This Message
    • You guys are great, thanks for all the input..., RedAeroGirl, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 12:38:06
      • Let it play out a bit. Unless you really want to, Noel, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 13:03:37
  • One more thing, J, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 11:28:20
  • Fight back, J, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 11:05:55
  • Re: difficult co-workers...advice?, Drew in Houston, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 09:04:56
  • Re: difficult co-workers...advice?, jp, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:55:56
  • Re: difficult co-workers...advice?, Rich, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:45:44
    • You're sooo right!, RedAeroGirl, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 08:49:49
      • Re: You're sooo right!, Spiros Trianta, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 18:16:49
      • Re: You're sooo right!, Rich, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 10:08:54
  • Your manager needs to step up, NateinAA, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:13:01
  • Is there a higher authority to go to?, Bret, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:10:07
    • Bypass your manager - straight to HR if possible, jc, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:12:03
  • Welcome to my world, NickR, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:09:48
    • Hey Nick, PT, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 17:03:10
  • Time to re-evaluate your boss....., MI-Roger , Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:07:54
  • Re: difficult co-workers...advice?, Chuck in SD, Fri, 25 Mar 2005 06:58:26
    • Re: difficult co-workers...advice?, Bill b , Fri, 25 Mar 2005 07:58:58

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